• Self-love is confused with being selfish, conceited,  self-centered or egotistical.
• Hurtful life experiences
• Turning to others for approval
• A feeling that you are not good enough or must be worthy of love!
• Self-love is not modeled in families. Many parents never learned to love themselves and are not able to provide the environment of unconditional love.
• It takes energy, work and being conscious.
• We have not been taught to love ourselves.

Learning self-love is a missing link in our education and upbringing.

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Keys to Learning to Love Yourself that are developed in the book

Know the Divine Source that Loves you All Ways, Always

This key teaches about the all loving God versus God as judgmental and demanding. The Divine Source or God will help you once your are willing.

Consciously Intend to Love Yourself

This Key teaches the power of using intention and deals with inner conflicts.

Love Your Whole Self

This Key teaches the power of being self-loving and compassionate with all aspects of yourself.

Accept Yourself and Your Feelings

This Key helps your learn to accept all your feelings, even “hard” feelings.  It speaks to the  potential from acceptance.

Use Self-Love to Heal and Grow

This Key teaches how to use self-love to heal, trust, find your passion and own your power.

Practice Self-Love Moment-to-Moment

This key teaches how to use breath and the power of visualizing God loving you.

Hang With People Who Remind You

This key is about the need to be reminded and how great it is to be with others who practice self-love and acceptance.

...there are more advanced keys in the last chapters.

Here is the wonderful sample: from the third Key to Self Love.  I love the way it starts. It introduces many concepts that come up again.  It introduces the concept of the misunderstandings we have passed down about spiritual teachers, in this case Jesus Christ.  If Christianity is not your path, not to worry.  This is explained more in the book.

To Love the Whole Self 

Yes, this is one of

the grandest

Lessons in this life

To love the whole self.

Yes, this includes

your insecurities,

Your inner child,

your abandoned self

Your weaknesses,

your pains and injuries

Your getting fired

as well as promoted.
 

Oh, this is not

weakness to

Embrace your

seeming failures

And shortcomings.

It is not that you cannot

Better that within yourself

which holds you

back from being

All that you really are.

It is that giving love and

Compassion to

these aspects of self

Is part of the bettering.

For how can

anything heal

Or grow without the lifeblood

Of Love and breath?

So breathe

Love to and into all that

You would change

for the better.

And into all in you

that pains --

Physical, emotional, psychological.
 

You must do this – as you

Must learn this is what it is

To be human on this planet

You call Earth.
 

Without this self-love and

compassion,

Without knowing

you will always

Wisely and

Generously give yourself,

These aspects of

Your Godself

Or your higher-self,

To your human-self

Without this ability,

the everyday care of self

You come to wither,

You come to

sickness and ill health

You loose all peace of mind

Your anxieties rise like

A spurting volcano

To erupt and flow burning

Scorching heat all over your

Bodies, into your minds

And drowning your Spirit.
 

You, your being human

Is a tricky form of  life.

You’ve become so

distant from Me,

Or so many of you

have -- not all,

You forget.

Your lack of understanding

My son, Jesus Christ,

Your misinterpretations

Through the distraught of your

ego selves And other

manifestations of
misunderstandings,
 

These, these have

injured you so.

I would have it healed

Believe Me on this ---

But I digress in my desire

To have you healed

and loving.
 

The message here is

To love yourself, all aspects

Especially when

you are hurting

Anxious, rejected, injured,

Ill and afraid.

This is to love Me,

Is to right yourself, for

It’s not that I

disdain the wrong

So much, as I, the Divine,

The I AM, am

embodied in you

In order for us to

have livelihood. 
 

So dear ones,

you are so dear

Because you chose

to be my body.

And then you forgot

who you Are.

Remember! 
 

One way to remember,

To heal yourself and the Earth

Is to love yourself where you hurt

When you hurt, as you cry --

And let those tears flow,

Give yourself love and compassion

In all your aspects, please.

In this you comfort, nurture, nourish

Yourself and help bring yourself

Back to Me.
 

And know the love I would

Breathe into you with every breath.

Godd Speed.